Do I cum on every single call? The honest answer is: no, not always. I do play with myself during the call so that I can make it as authentic as possible. Now if he wants a scene where I‘m whipping him with my riding crop, that’s not the most conducive to masturbatory multi-tasking. Then again, those scenes tend to not require my orgasm at all. Roughly two-thirds of my clients want to hear my orgasm in any given call. Some are strictly focused on their own pleasure and others want a scene that is more focused on sensation, humiliation, or penetration (of him, not me).

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I love my purple dildo. Every time I pick it up, it seems that I find a different use for it. It's been endlessly helpful in my work as a phone sex operator. I don't even put it away when I'm finished with it. I take it right to the kitchen, boil it, let it dry, and sit it back on my bedside table. I use it so much that it's easier to leave it out so I don't have to go fishing through my drawers when I need it. And I need it almost every day. Now admittedly, I don't have a gigantic sex toy collection. I only started reviewing last month. Nonetheless, I can tell that the Echo and I are going to have a long and pleasurable relationship.

It is easy to get sucked into the negative when you get a herpes diagnosis. I remember the day that I was diagnosed. I was at the health center at my university and I had the most horrific first herpes outbreak anyone could imagine. Two solid weeks of not being able to sit, lay down, use the bathroom, or shower without excruciating pain. Not to mention the accompanying nausea, fatigue, and general feelings of misery. The nurse gave me the diagnosis and I felt my heart hit the floor. 

“Okay everyone, for the next part of the exercise, we’re going to practice eye gazing for two minutes.” There was a collective gasp as the participants tried to envision staring into a complete stranger’s eyes for two minutes. Even as a staff member, I was feeling a little nervous as I had never performed this feat either. “Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and relax your body.” I drew a shaky breath and exhaled slowly, wanting to give myself as much time as possible to prepare. “Now open your eyes and look into your partner’s eyes. Two minutes starting now.” I opened my eyes and looked into the most beautiful blue eyes I’d ever seen. For two minutes I felt myself get lost in her eyes, drawing me deeply into the depths of her soul. As I looked into her eyes, I realized that at the same time, I was feeling seen for the first time in my life. No pretense, no quick smiles or misdirection. There was nothing but the two of us in those moments and we connected in a way that I didn’t know was possible. For the rest of the weekend, just being near her was enough to make me feel whole and comfortable. Welcome to the Herpes Opportunity weekend.

In the process of moving cross country in August, I was fortunate to have a stop where I could do a radio interview with the lovely Devi Ward, from "Better Love and Sex with Devi Ward!" 

The votes have been tallied and the results are in! My blog came in at #18 on Kinkly's Top 100 Superhero Sex Blogs of 2013!

I used to be completely intimidated by phone sex. I thought I would sound silly or that my partner wouldn't be turned on. I had a hundred excuses why phone sex was just "not for me." Until one day I said, "fuck it" and tried it. It was with a partner who I had been with for a while and I knew that if it didn't work out, he wouldn't hold it against me. We set aside time and had toys and lube at the ready. I even had notes in front of me so I could remember what he liked in case he got flustered. Turns out, I didn't even need them. After the initial "how exactly do we get started?" I began to feel better. I was just talking to my lover. He'd seen me naked! He's watched me clean up after sex and we've fought over who has to lay on the dreaded wet spot! There was nothing I was going to say that was going to ruin it. I just had to be myself. Five years later, I have men paying me to have phone sex with them. 

Who do you consider to be your family? Imagine them in your mind. If you’re like me, not all of the people are biologically related to you, or to each other. Each one of us comes into the world and is brought into a home. It could be a home with two biological parents, a single parent, adoptive parents, co-parents, or some other arrangement. We have little to no control over the families in which we are raised. Our families of origin could be completely healthy and nurturing or dysfunctional and toxic. Often, there is some combination of the two. Our family of origin can imbibe us with strength and resilience. It can also saddle us with baggage and maladaptive coping skills. These factors will influence how we interact with others as we grow and mature. We cannot control where we came from—the actions of others are beyond our control. What we can control is the family that we create as adults.