Bodysex Retreats

In July 2019 Ashley obtained her certification as a Bodysex facilitator after training with famed pro-sex feminist Betty Dodson, author of the bestselling memoir Sex for One and widely known as the Mother of Masturbation. Betty, along with her partner Carlin Ross, host the original Bodysex retreats in Betty's legendary Manhattan apartment and created the facilitator certification program. Ashley hosts small retreats in her beach apartment in Long Beach, California, and travels across California and the world bringing Bodysex to vulva owners everywhere.

Taking a Bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual. Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women-identified folks and vulva owners got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

Social Distancing Bodysex circles:

All Bodysex circles have been moved to an online format for the duration of the COVID-19 outbreak.

Upcoming Bodysex Online Groups:

Dates TBD, but it will be a weekly group Zoom call that will last 4-5 weeks depending on size with each call lasting 90 minutes each.

The suggested donation is $1,000.00 by PayPal/venmo/Zelle. And we have a student/hardship sliding scale where you pay what you can ($200 minimum).

You'll be provided a link to purchase the Betty Dodson metal barbell and you'll need to provide your own wand-style vibrator and almond, coconut, or olive oil. I encourage you to also purchase a bottle of Foria Awaken, a CBD-infused arousal oil. You'll also need a webcam (either on your laptop or tablet--phones don't tend to work well for group sessions) and an internet connection.

To reserve a spot in one of the workshops, send me an email - [email protected] with the subject "BodySex Online" to be added to the interest list.

Frequently asked questions: 

Who is this for?

This is an empowerment and sexual pleasure workshop designed for people with vulvas to learn how to love and celebrate their pussy power! It doesn't matter how you identify your gender, if you have a vulva and you want to discover ways to shed shame and embrace joy, this retreat is for you!

What if I have my period?

No problem. Someone has their period at almost every workshop. You can use a tampon, menstrual cup, or a piece of natural sea sponge during genital show & tell and erotic recess.

What if I have a yeast infection?

No problem. I would recommend some cranberry pills or the monistat egg to treat your yeast infection then head over to Ashley's.

What if I can't orgasm?

If you orgasm, great. If you don't, that's ok too. Orgasm is NOT the goal. We're here to heal body shame, overcome sexual guilt and experience true sisterhood. There's no agenda and no expectations.

Can I keep the vibrator?

The price of the barbell is included in the workshop fee. If you want to keep the Rechargeable Magic Wand you used during the workshop, you can and the price is $124.95.

Can I bring my own barbell and wand?

Yes. If you've already purchased the barbell and the wand, you can bring them with you to the workshop.

Can I bring something to eat?

Of course. We provide beverages (bottled water) and some veggies, cookies, fruit, and nuts.

If you have any other questions, you can email me directly: [email protected]

I wish every vulva owner could take a workshop and connect with themselves as part of their sexual rite of passage. Hope to see you!

To reserve a spot in one of the workshops, send me an email:
[email protected]


Check out Betty Dodson on Viceland's Slutever!