Sneak Peek at my Upcoming Guide!
I've been hinting for weeks about my upcoming educational guide and it's almost finished! It's called "A Feminist's Guide to Phone Sex" and it goes live in less than a week! I've been working with Queerie Bradshaw and her recently created Frisky Feminist Press. You can download it on March 13th. Here's a teaser excerpt for you!
Read moreComing Out Kinky - Interview with Jean Franzblau
If you haven't heard, Bawdy Storytelling is the place for pervs and kinksters and other sex positive people to connect. Sometimes, that means an awesome hookup. Other times, that means meeting someone who is warm, honest, vulnerable, and incredibly brave. A few months ago, I had the pleasure of meeting Jean Franzblau, a sex positive writer and performer. She told me about her show, Coming Out Kinky, and I was instantly enthralled. The more I read about it, the more I felt myself growing giddy. This is it! This is modeling vulnerability at its finest! She recounts talking to her mom about sex, her journey to sexually empowered adulthood, and all of the twists and turns in between! I am thrilled to present my first interview ever on this blog, and I can't imagine a better person with whom to kick it off! Without further ado, I give you the brilliant Jean Franzblau.
Learning the Language of Connection
“Okay everyone, for the next part of the exercise, we’re going to practice eye gazing for two minutes.” There was a collective gasp as the participants tried to envision staring into a complete stranger’s eyes for two minutes. Even as a staff member, I was feeling a little nervous as I had never performed this feat either. “Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and relax your body.” I drew a shaky breath and exhaled slowly, wanting to give myself as much time as possible to prepare. “Now open your eyes and look into your partner’s eyes. Two minutes starting now.” I opened my eyes and looked into the most beautiful blue eyes I’d ever seen. For two minutes I felt myself get lost in her eyes, drawing me deeply into the depths of her soul. As I looked into her eyes, I realized that at the same time, I was feeling seen for the first time in my life. No pretense, no quick smiles or misdirection. There was nothing but the two of us in those moments and we connected in a way that I didn’t know was possible. For the rest of the weekend, just being near her was enough to make me feel whole and comfortable. Welcome to the Herpes Opportunity weekend.
Read moreI'm a Superhero Sex Blogger!
The votes have been tallied and the results are in! My blog came in at #18 on Kinkly's Top 100 Superhero Sex Blogs of 2013!
Read moreBook Ashley
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I believe comprehensive pleasure positive sexuality education should be available to everyone and I am available to design a specialized workshop specifically for your needs.
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I also co-teach workshops with legendary adult performer Nina Hartley. For more on our workshop offerings, email [email protected]
With Nina Hartley at The Stockroom in Los Angeles, March 2017.
Here are some of my most popular workshop topics. I can also customize a workshop to fit your needs!:
Light My Fire: How Cannabis Can Enhance Pleasure
All Hands on Bits! Hand Sex for All Bodies
Phone Sex, Dirty Talk, and Sexting
Bachelorette Bliss: Ashley's Pleasurable Tips and Tricks
Sexy Supplies: An Intro to Toys, Lube, and Accessories!
Handy Skills and Oral Thrills (for Penises, Vulvas, and/or Asses!)
Tell Me How You Want It: Dirty Talk for Sexual Communication
Having an Affair with Yourself: Body Confidence and Sexual Empowerment
Queer Sex: Embracing Inclusive Pleasure
For Your Pleasure: A Masturbation Primer
Positively Positive: Living, Loving, and Thriving with an STI
Sexual Assault Awareness and Bystander Intervention
Intro to Trauma for Sexuality Professionals
South by Southwest (SXSW) Panel on The Surprising Health and Sex Benefits of Cannabis, March 2017.
She Cums First: Women's Sexual Empowerment at West Chester University, September 2009.