Most of the time when New Relationship Energy (NRE) is mentioned, it's in the context of relationships (typically polyamorous relationships). The Poly Glossary on MoreThanTwo.com defines NRE as:

Last March, my partner Declan and I opened up our relationship. It was my first experience with ethical non-monogamy and I was both excited and scared. Would either of us get jealous? Would it work? Would we be able to handle it once it went from theoretical non-monogamy to one (or both) of us actually having additional partners? 

Update: A Feminist's Guide to Phone Sex is no longer available. HOWEVER!

You can purchase my online Dirty Talk course at www.elevatedintimacy.com and it has even more info than the original guide, plus handouts you can download!

I've been hinting for weeks about my upcoming educational guide and it's almost finished! It's called "A Feminist's Guide to Phone Sex" and it goes live in less than a week! I've been working with Queerie Bradshaw and her recently created Frisky Feminist Press. You can download it on March 13th. Here's a teaser excerpt for you!

I have to be honest, I've been feeling a little guilty about calling this a sex blog when I don't talk about having sex that often. So since I had a pretty terrific experience last night, it seems only fair to share the hot, steamy, and hilarious (you'll see) details with you, my faithful readers. Shoutouts to Uberlube, Lucky Bloke, and NatureLabs for this delightful sexual escapade. So if you don't want to know the naughty details of my sex life, don't read this!

"You do phone sex? That's so 90s!"

Ring. Ring.

After working as a PSO for three months, I have a Pavlovian response to hearing a phone ring. My pulse quickens, and I instinctively drop into my “sexy voice.” Before I open my mouth to say hello, I look at the caller ID on my cell phone and realize it’s my dad calling. Oops. Better switch to the normal voice.

I walked into the Emergency Room at Riddle Memorial Hospital in Media, PA on Wednesday May 1st, 2013 with lower abdominal pain. I walked out of the hospital on May 4th minus one appendix and feeling disgusting and fat. What happened in those three days? The judgment of one medical professional (and appendicitis). 

When I revealed to my best friend that I recently started working as a phone sex operator (PSO), she was supportive but immediately raised a concern. “Doesn’t Declan mind?” Declan is my partner. We’ve been together for two years, and we just moved to Los Angeles. My best friend’s concern is understandable. 

It is easy to get sucked into the negative when you get a herpes diagnosis. I remember the day that I was diagnosed. I was at the health center at my university and I had the most horrific first herpes outbreak anyone could imagine. Two solid weeks of not being able to sit, lay down, use the bathroom, or shower without excruciating pain. Not to mention the accompanying nausea, fatigue, and general feelings of misery. The nurse gave me the diagnosis and I felt my heart hit the floor.