This past year has been a tough one for me for a multitude of reasons, but body confidence was one of the biggest. In case you didn't know, even the strongest advocates for body acceptance have days (sometimes weeks) of dealing with body hatred and self-esteem crises. My shame this year was my double chin. I don't know when I started noticing it, but suddenly in pictures I found myself wanting to cover my chin/neck with my hands, hide behind other people in the picture, or use the old "hold your phone over your head trick" to minimize the appearance. I was loving the rest of me, I even started wearing sleeveless shirts that showed my arm jiggles and fitted dresses that showed my stomach. I bought red lipstick and started doing my makeup in the pinup style that I adore. Everything was going well, except for the damn double chin. Until I found this picture:

My dear friend Lauren Marie Fleming has started this program called Bawdy Love, and here she was, showing off her gorgeous body in all its glory for the world to see. It gave me hope. It gave me strength. It made me realize that loving your body is a choice that you make every single day. It's a habit you have to form, a skill that must be developed. You have to cultivate your positive relationship with your body, and that starts with ceasing the negative self talk ("ew my double chin looks so gross in in that picture") and start treating your body the way you'd treat anyone else in your life that you love--with compassion and respect. Two of these photos are NSFW. This post contains affiliate links.*

Update: A Feminist's Guide to Phone Sex is no longer available. HOWEVER!

You can purchase my online Dirty Talk course at www.elevatedintimacy.com and it has even more info than the original guide, plus handouts you can download!

I've been hinting for weeks about my upcoming educational guide and it's almost finished! It's called "A Feminist's Guide to Phone Sex" and it goes live in less than a week! I've been working with Queerie Bradshaw and her recently created Frisky Feminist Press. You can download it on March 13th. Here's a teaser excerpt for you!

Do I cum on every single call? The honest answer is: no, not always. I do play with myself during the call so that I can make it as authentic as possible. Now if he wants a scene where I‘m whipping him with my riding crop, that’s not the most conducive to masturbatory multi-tasking. Then again, those scenes tend to not require my orgasm at all. Roughly two-thirds of my clients want to hear my orgasm in any given call. Some are strictly focused on their own pleasure and others want a scene that is more focused on sensation, humiliation, or penetration (of him, not me).