“Okay everyone, for the next part of the exercise, we’re going to practice eye gazing for two minutes.” There was a collective gasp as the participants tried to envision staring into a complete stranger’s eyes for two minutes. Even as a staff member, I was feeling a little nervous as I had never performed this feat either. “Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and relax your body.” I drew a shaky breath and exhaled slowly, wanting to give myself as much time as possible to prepare. “Now open your eyes and look into your partner’s eyes. Two minutes starting now.” I opened my eyes and looked into the most beautiful blue eyes I’d ever seen. For two minutes I felt myself get lost in her eyes, drawing me deeply into the depths of her soul. As I looked into her eyes, I realized that at the same time, I was feeling seen for the first time in my life. No pretense, no quick smiles or misdirection. There was nothing but the two of us in those moments and we connected in a way that I didn’t know was possible. For the rest of the weekend, just being near her was enough to make me feel whole and comfortable. Welcome to the Herpes Opportunity weekend.Read more
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I believe comprehensive pleasure positive sexuality education should be available to everyone and I am available to design a specialized workshop specifically for your needs.
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With Nina Hartley at The Stockroom in Los Angeles, March 2017.
Here are some of my most popular workshop topics. I can also customize a workshop to fit your needs!:
Light My Fire: How Cannabis Can Enhance Pleasure
All Hands on Bits! Hand Sex for All Bodies
Phone Sex, Dirty Talk, and Sexting
Bachelorette Bliss: Ashley's Pleasurable Tips and Tricks
Sexy Supplies: An Intro to Toys, Lube, and Accessories!
Handy Skills and Oral Thrills (for Penises, Vulvas, and/or Asses!)
Tell Me How You Want It: Dirty Talk for Sexual Communication
Having an Affair with Yourself: Body Confidence and Sexual Empowerment
Queer Sex: Embracing Inclusive Pleasure
For Your Pleasure: A Masturbation Primer
Positively Positive: Living, Loving, and Thriving with an STI
Sexual Assault Awareness and Bystander Intervention
Intro to Trauma for Sexuality Professionals
South by Southwest (SXSW) Panel on The Surprising Health and Sex Benefits of Cannabis, March 2017.
She Cums First: Women's Sexual Empowerment at West Chester University, September 2009.
Sometimes consent is awkward. We live in a culture where people take certain liberties without asking permission. People are used to that. We’re used to having old Aunt Marge pinch our cheeks and leave lipstick smudges. When someone comes at us for a hug, sometimes we just grit our teeth and get through it instead of feeling comfortable saying “no.” Breaking out of that mold means asking first, and that’s a skill that requires practice.Read more